Etiquette for the holiday houseguest

12/16/2012

Welcome to the holidays and a constant flurry of entertaining and socializing.

Friends and family will be stopping by for days, and in some cases, staying over. While it can be wonderful to catch up with long-lost cousins and a joy to play with your nieces and nephews, the holidays can bring with them some unwelcome stress and exhaustion, especially if one of your holiday tasks is hosting a houseguest.

A good houseguest can be pleasant and enjoyable, while a bad one can cause tension at an already busy time of a year.

So, if someone opens their home to you over the holiday season, try to return the favor by spreading some holiday cheer. Here are a few tips on being a good holiday houseguest:

1. Communicate your arrival and departures dates in advance. Give your host a chance to prepare for your visit, by letting them know ahead of time, when you will be visiting. When planning, keep in mind the old joke about house-guest and fish stinking after three days. In other words, don’t wear out your welcome.

2. Be clear about who will be joining you. While it’s obvious that you’re coming, it may be a good idea to let your hostess know that Fido will be making the trip with you. The same goes for significant others and kids.

3. Don’t complain. If conflicting lifestyles or allergies are a problem, make plans to stay elsewhere. Don’t complain about a house with pets or meat-eaters. Stay at a hotel instead.

4. Respect the house rules. If your host doesn’t smoke or drink in the home, you shouldn’t either. Eat in the kitchen or dining room. Hang your coat and take your shoes off at the door.

5. Offer to cook or buy groceries. Preparing meals for more than the regulars can be taxing — physically and financially. Help your hostess out by taking charge in the kitchen or making a trip to the store. If cooking isn’t one of your best skills, offer to take everyone out for a meal.

6. Lend a helping hand. Be prepared to do simple tasks like washing dishes, folding laundry or vacuuming. Your host will appreciate it.

7. Don’t make yourself at home. It’s not your house. Ask before adjusting the thermostat or changing the channel on the television.

8. Clean up after yourself. Your host, most likely, didn’t offer maid service with your invitation, so wash the glass you drank from, straighten up the room you were sleeping in and keep the bathroom tidy. This is someone’s home, not a hotel.

9. Leave a thank you gift. A hand-written note or card will suffice. Flowers or even a small amount of cash are thoughtful gestures to let your hosts know you appreciate them.

Contact RoNeisha Mullen at: rmullen@theblade.com or 419-724-6133.